The holiday season brings cheer, celebration and often a whirlwind of professional and personal responsibilities. As the year wraps up, it’s easy to find yourself caught between finishing projects at work and fully enjoying time with loved ones. How do you maintain balance without sacrificing joy or productivity? The end-of-year rush can heighten workplace expectations, while personal obligations, like family gatherings or holiday events, simultaneously increase. By acknowledging these challenges, rather than ignoring them, we can solve problems and prepare for realistic compromises.
Practicing Flexibility
Unexpected demands can arise in both personal and professional spheres (shocking update, I know). Still, keeping a flexible mindset can help you adapt and also minimize feeling overwhelmed. Of course, this can be easier said than done, but here are a few points that might help us take a breath and reconsider the variety of options instead of panicking.
- Should it be now? Is this something that is actually time sensitive or could it be a January problem? Prioritize tasks that truly need your attention.
- Should it be me? Not everything has to be done by me and only me. I am surrounded by other smart, capable adults. Is this a moment to delegate or even create a team to accomplish the task? If we are lucky enough to have a crew we trust, then we should do just that.
- Should it be perfect? In a society that idolizes perfection, I adore the quote from GK Chesterton: “If a thing is worth doing, it is worth doing poorly.” Now, to be clear, I also love a job well done, but sometimes we must take a step back and realize that a job poorly done might be better than a job never completed. Adjust plans, as needed, and remember that perfection isn’t always the goal.
Maintaining Boundaries
Even with flexibility, sometimes we still need to give a ‘no.’ One example could be an automatic email scheduled at the end of your workday saying something to the effect of “After 6 PM, I won’t be checking emails or answering calls. I’m committed to quality time with my family. I will be happy to review your concern first thing on the next business day.” Or if a coworker attempts to add items to your day’s to-do list at the end of your workday, this video shows a respectful but clear shutdown that could be used when lines are pushed.
It can be helpful to remember that boundaries are promises to yourself and others; keeping them builds respect and trust. When it is relevant and appropriate, share these boundaries with colleagues and family members to manage expectations.
Embracing the Power of Small Wins
During the holiday season, the pressure to “do it all” can lead to stress and frustration. Instead of chasing perfection, focus on small, meaningful wins to maintain motivation and balance. Here’s how to embrace them:
- Set Manageable Goals
Break tasks into smaller, achievable steps. Completing sections of a project or finishing a holiday chore is progress worth celebrating. - Create a ‘Done’ List
At day’s end, list what you accomplished. It’s a positive reminder that progress, no matter how small, matters. - Savor Moments of Connection
Appreciate brief but meaningful interactions — a laugh with family or a kind exchange with a coworker. These moments fuel fulfillment. - Celebrate Completion, Not Perfection
Done is better than perfect. Recognize the effort in finishing tasks, even if they aren’t flawless. - Reward Yourself
After a challenging day, treat yourself — a cup of coffee, a short walk, or an evening of relaxation. Small rewards reinforce your efforts.
Acknowledging small wins builds momentum and keeps you balanced. Remember, lasting growth comes from steady steps.
Being Present: Today and Next Year
“Wherever you are, be all there.” – Jim Elliot
Multitasking rarely leads to true productivity or fulfillment. If you’re at a family dinner, be there fully. If you’re wrapping up a project, give it your focused attention. Mindfulness helps maximize satisfaction in both realms.
And as the year ends, carve out time for reflection. Use the holidays to recharge, allowing yourself to step away from work fully.
- What went well?
- What could you improve next year to enhance your work-life balance?
- What brought me joy and fulfillment this year?
- How can I protect and prioritize those things next year?
Amid the year-end and holiday chaos, remember to pause and take a breath. Balance isn’t a precarious tightrope where one misstep spells disaster. Instead, think of it as a dance — a series of shifts and pivots to stay steady. And with each new turn, embrace a generous measure of grace for both yourself and your partner.
The holidays provide an opportunity to recalibrate and set healthier boundaries. Give yourself permission to enjoy the season, recharge and enter the new year refreshed. As Anne Lamott wisely said, “Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you.”
